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- 佛陀 : 「妳/你可以找遍全世界，但是卻找不到任何一個值得妳/你愛他/她超過妳/你自己的人。」愛自己是合理的，這是一種需要培養的能力，因為愛自己是去愛護和關心別人的基礎。
- 光是集中注意力在吸氣和吐氣上，將大大改變人生。對自己更寬容，也對別人更開放。

- Feminism is a movement to end sexism, sexist exploitation, and oppression.
- Masses of people think that feminism is always and only about women seeking to be equal to men. And a huge majority of these folks think feminism is anti-male.

- Tend to hear all about the evil of feminism and the bad feminists: how "they" hate men; how "they" want to go against nature - and god; how "they" are all lesbians; how "they" are taking all the jobs and making the world hard for white men, who do not stand a chance.
  - Mostly they think feminism is a bunch of angry women who want to be like men. They do not even think about feminism as being about rights - about women gaining equal rights.

- Unconditional lovers of the human spirit, angels were there to help us face reality without fear.
- John Sanford, <<The Man Who Wrestled with God>> : "The fact that Jacob could fall in love at all shows that a certain amount of psychological growth had taken place in him during his journey through the wilderness. So far the only woman in his life had been his mother. As long as a man remains in a state of psychological development in which his mother is the most important woman to him, he cannot mature as a man. A man's eros, his capacity for love and relateness, must be freed from attachment to the mother, and able to reach out to a woman who is his contemporary; otherwise he remains a demanding, dependent, childish person."

- Love heals. When we are wounded in the place where we would know love, it is difficult to imagine that love really has the power to change everything. No matter what has happened in our past, when we open our hearts to love we can live as if born again, not forgetting the past but seeing it in a new way, letting it live inside us in a new way.
- James Baldwin, <Next Time> :

- Cultures of domination court death.
- Erich Fromm asked : why we prefer love of death to love of life, why "the human race prefers necrophilia to biophilia".

Sweet Love say
Where, how and when

- True giving is a thoroughly joyous thing to do. We experience happiness when we form the intention to give, in the actual act of giving, and in the recollection of the fact that we have given. Generosity is a celebration. When we give something to someone we feel connected to them, and our commitment to the path of peace and awareness deepens. - Sharon Salzberg
- Love allows us to enter paradise. Still, many of use wait outside the gates, unable to cross the threshold, unable to leave behind all the stuff we have accumulated that gets in the way of love.

- Communities sustain life - not nuclear families, or the "couple", and certainly not the rugged individualist.
  - There is no better place to learn the art of loving than in community.

- SHARON SALZBERG : "The fading away greed and hatred is the foundation for liberation. Liberation is "the sure heart's release" - an understanding of the truth so powerful that there is no turning back from it".
- Isolation and loneliness are central causes of depression and despair.

- Awakening to love can happen only as we let go of our obsession with power and domination.
  - The underlying values of a culture and its ethics shape and inform the way we speak and act.

- "As a woman and a lover, however, I am moved by the sight of my Beloved. Where He is, I want to be. What He suffers, I want to share. Who He is, I want to be: crucified for love." - SAINT TERESA OF AVILA
- Living life in touch with divine spirit lets us see the light of love in all living beings.

- M. SCOTT PECK : "Commitment is inherent in any genuinely loving relationship. Anyone who is truly concerned for the spiritual growth of another knows, consciously or instinctively, that he or she can significantly foster that growth only through a relationship of constancy."
- Commitment to truth telling lays the groundwork for the openness and honesty is the heartbeat of love. When we can see ourselves as we truly are and accept ourselves, we build the necessary foundation for self-love.

- The heart of justice is truth telling, seeing ourselves and the world the way it is rather than the way we want it to be.
  - In recent years sociologists and psychologists have documented the fact that we live in a nation where people are lying more and more each day.

- We learn about love in childhood. Whether our homes are happy or troubled, our families functional or dysfunctional, it's the original school of love.
  - Love was always and only about good feeling. But why was harsh punishment a gesture of love?

- The men in my life have always been the folks who are wary of using the word 'love" lightly. They are wary because they believe women make too much of love.
  - Our confusion about what we mean when we use the word "love" is the source of our difficulty in loving.

- It had become hard for me to continue to believe in love's promise when everywhere I turned the enchantment of power or the terror of fear overshadowed the will to love.
- There are not many public discussions of love in our culture right now. At best, popular culture is the one domain in which our longing for love is talked about.

- In a world where most of the upper class was busily establishing pretensions to noble blood, the best way to bolster one's legitimacy was to marry someone who also had an august line of ancestors.
  - Rulers used marriage to establish diplomatic, military, or commercial ties.

- Marriage is a social invention, unique to human.
- Before marriage was invented, according to the Piegan, or Blackfoot Indians :

- Some people argue that marriage is universal because it simply expresses the biological urge to mate and reproduce.
  - Animal behaviors are not just about sex.