檳榔嶼

- Practicing forgiveness is something you can do right aways even if there are certain people you don't feel ready to forgive.
- The only person you need to forgive is yourself.
  - The most difficult person for most of us to forgive is ourselves.
- When we meet someone, the ego's impulse is to judge and make the distinctions that determine whether we are dealing with a potential enemy or friend. ... These judgments act to keep our hearts closed and separate us from others.... We set ourselves apart by an assumptions of superiority. Or, we set ourselves apart by establishing our inferiority.
- Forgiving in this way doesn't imply that we or others are not guilty of particular acts, but it does mean that the act that was commited does not vaguely sum up our entire character or the entire truth of who we or others are.

PUTTING THEORY INTO PRACTICE
- Allow yourself to see beyond their outer appearances and see, instead, the Self- the light. Inwardly acknowledge that each person you see has a peaceful, loving, and wise nature.
  - You can do this as you walk down the street, ride an elevator, stand in a line - virtually anywhere when there are others around.
  - No words or outer gestures are needed. Just a quiet inner recognition is sufficient.
  - In essence, you are silently saing, "I see You."
- Scan people for signs of peace, gentleness, and love. "we seek their innocence, not their guilt. We look at them with our heart, not our preconceived notions."
- Goethe : "If you treat a person as she/he appears to be, you make her/him worse that she/he is. But if you treat a person as if she/he already were what she/he potentially could be, you make her/him what she/he should be."
- Hugh Prather : "forgiveness is not some futile act in rosy self-deception, but rather the calm recognition that below our egos, we are all exactly the same."