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我有一個朋友說過，他能接受lesbian但不能接受gay，因為肛交很髒。現在回想起來，這段話充滿了父權思想，為什麼情感關係必然會牽扯性交？為什麼性愛必然牽涉到陽具插入？為什麼陽具就必須要插入女人的陰道才能獲得歡愉？

恐同症並不會隨時同性婚姻合法化，它就會消失。社會運動不能只停留在爭取合法而已，社會運動要去抹除所有的歧視。合法不等於沒有歧視。但合法往往會宣告一個社會運動的終結。這同時也讓許多同性伴侶一樣繼續載入父權思想。

畢竟爭取認同的概念本身就是一個父權概念，有愛的世界，沒有任何一個人是必須要去爭取誰的認同，也沒有任何一個人有權力去決定要不要認同誰，也沒有任何一個人有權力去批判、羞辱、抱怨、攻擊、歧視任何一個人。身為一個異性戀的我，我不知道我有什麼立場要讓lesbian或gay來爭取我對她/他們的認同。

如果有一天，我們不再需要去分析跟分類一個人的性取向時，當出櫃不再是一件需要特別關注的新聞，也不需要接受特別的祝福時，當我們不再需要保護愛滋病患者，只因為得到這種病等同於性淫亂的標籤時，那時候的世界會比現在多很多愛吧。

- It was also evident that male homosexuality was much more widely accepted than lesbianism.
- Nothing has damaged this spirit of loving kindness and tolerance in black life more than the absolute embrace of patriarchal thinking.
- The same black macho men who attacked Bladwin by calling him Martin Luther Queen attacked King's message of love, tolerance, and forgiveness. Despite their useful critiques of racism and white supremacy, these black power advocates ushered in a wave of militant resistance which validated violence, which encouraged black people to sit in judgement of one another, to turn against one another and see one another as enemies.
- Audre Lorde, <<SIster Outsider>> : "The Black Lesbian has come under increasing attack from both Black men and heterosexual Black women. In the same way that the existence of the self-defined Black woman is no threat to self-defined Black man, the Black lesbian is an emotional threat only to those Black women whose feelings of kinship and love for other Black women are problematic in some way. For so long, we have been encouraged to view each other with suspicion, as eternal competitors, or as the visible face of our self-rejection."
- Loving blackness means that we love all of who we are, and that includes gay black people.
- Decolonized gay black people are doing the work of self-love. Black heterosexuals must be held accountable for homophobia and do the work of challenge and change.
  - In a world where popular music like rap and house reinforces homophobia, this is not an easy task.
- Homophobic hatred of gay people encourages heterosexuals to feel they have the right to determine the legitimacy of any person's sexual identification.
- Judging one another as traitors based on sexual preferences has been the easiest way to discount and dismiss the work of black people who have given or give their all to the black liberation struggle.
- Clearly, black women were judged by a different standard.
- June Jordan, <<Where is the Love>> : "When I speak of Black feminism I am not speaking of heterosexuality or lesbianism or homosexuality or bisexuality; whatever sexuality anyone elects for his or her pursuit is not my business, nor the business of the state. And furthermore, I cannot be persuaded that one kind of sexuality, as against another, will necessarily provide for the greater happiness of the two people involved. I am not talking about sexuality, I am talking about love; about a steady-state deep caring and respect for every other human being, a love that can only derive from a secure and positive self-love."
  - Paradoxically, the foundation of the love Jordan describes can only be present in black life if we respect everyone's sexuality.
- Rejecting others because one does not approve of their sexual preference is wrong-minded and downright cruel.
- Gay men who buy into patriarchal thinking are just as sexist as their straight counterparts.
- Self-loving black men do not fear being gay.
- Often when family members foolishly indulge in homophobic jokes and verbal gay-bashing, they assume that the gay person is a stranger, someone out there whom they will never know.
- Patriarchal homophobic thinking has led many black people to see the AIDS virus as punishment for wrongdoing. Such thinking is rooted in hate.
- Without an open, compassionate response to homosexuality, black folks will never be able to cope with HIV-related disease and AIDS in our communities, or understand why black women are disproportionately represented among the sick and dying.
- Recognizing the love healthy gay males and females offer each other and us all is vital to loving blackness. It allows us to establish communities where no one is excluded or discriminated against. It enable us to value one another rightly, to appreciate our preference, and to let love guide us to the place where we are made one body in love.