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- The freedom to be our true individual selves as God created us to be. Carl Jung : "The process of human development is one of becoming fully individual."
  - Most of us never totally complete the process and may never get very far at all.
  - Most, to a greater or lesser degree, fail to individuate - to separate - ourselves from family, tribe, or caste.
  - Even into old age... we are still dictated to by the values and expectations of our mothers and fathers. .. We go with the crowd.
  - From laziness and fear, we never truly learn to think for ourselves or dare to be out of step with the stereotypes.
  - this failure to individuate is a failure to grow up and become fully human.
- We are called to wholeness. We should use what gifts or talents we are given to develop ourselves as fully as possible. ... If we are to grow, we must work on the weak spots that prevent growth.
- Because we cannot ever to totally adequate, self-sufficient, independent beings, the ideal of rugged individualism encourages us to fake it. It encourages us to hide our weaknesses and failures. It teaches us to be utterly ashamed of our limitations. It drives us to attempt to be superwomen and supermen not only in the eyes of others but also in our own.
- Trapped in our tradition of rugged individualism, we are an extraordinarily longly people. So lonely, in fact, that many cannot even acknowledge their loneliness to themselves, much less to others.
- Soft individualism : an understanding of individualism which teaches that we cannot be truly ourselves until we are able to share freely the things we most have in common: our weakness, our incompleteness, our imperfection, our inadequacy, our sins, our lack of wholeness and self-sufficiency.
  - I'm not OK and you're not OK, but that's OK.